Every Little Memory Still Finds A Way

 I Deleted Your Number Not The Pain

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Mine Is YOU

A new, just released song by Trace Adkins says it all perfectly!

I dedicate this to my once in a lifetime, Vivian - 

To listen click - - > You're Mine

No regrets

Yeah, I wish that I could say that, but I can't

I wish that I could let go of the past

It don't take much

To remind me of the things I can't undo

And the feelin' I can't shake of missin' you

I guess everybody has somebody

That could have been that one and only once

In a lifetime love

Yeah, everybody has somebody

That's more than just a memory, it's a dream

You can't wake up from

A reason to keep reachin' back in time

You're mine

Never fails

Every time I hear that love song, there you are

It somehow finds the bottom of my heart

I guess it's true

Somethings you don't get over, mine is you

And though I try, there's nothin' I can do

I guess everybody has somebody

That could have been that one and only once

In a lifetime love

Yeah, everybody has somebody

That's more than just a memory, it's a dream

You can't wake up from

A reason to keep reachin' back in time

You're mine

You're mine

Residual Damage

I came across the below article this morning, which touches on how "grey divorce" reshapes family dynamics and how fathers are more likely to lose touch with their children.

I've read this a half dozen times already, each time brings tears to my eye, and I will tell you, from what I've experienced, this is sadly true.

I've been struggling with the "why" but need to stop beating myself up and accept it for what it is.

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        Divorce is always messy – you have to think about finances, living arrangements and of course, the kids.

But when it comes to older couples going their separate ways, fathers are more likely to lose touch with their children, a study suggests.

There has been a growing trend in recent years for 'grey divorce', when couples in long-term marriages split after the age of 50.

Now, researchers have studied the impact this has on their children.

Scientists analyzed data on 9,000 individuals, focusing on the frequency of contact with their parents, emotional closeness and the provision of support – and how these were affected by the occurrence of a grey divorce.

Divorce is always messy – you have to think about finances, living arrangements and of course, the kids. But when it comes to older couples going their separate ways, fathers are more likely to lose touch with their children, a study suggests 

They discovered the effects vary significantly depending on the gender of both the parent and the child involved.

Firstly, the study found that grey divorce generally leads to a decrease in the frequency of contact between adult children and their fathers.

On the other hand, there was an increase in the frequency of contact and in emotional closeness with mothers.

The researchers also found the consequences of divorce were generally more pronounced in father-daughter relationships, which experienced greater declines in both contact frequency and emotional closeness compared to father-son relationships.

Meanwhile, mother-daughter relationships often showed a strengthening in emotional bonds.

Zafer Büyükkeçeci, from the Max Planck Institute for Demographic Research in Germany, led the research. 

He said: 'Fathers tend to experience greater post-divorce strain on parent-child relationships compared to mothers.

'Reasons for the disparity could be that traditionally, mothers often maintain closer bonds with children.

'Adult children might even strengthen ties with mothers to compensate for the loss of a spousal confidante.

'Studies also show stronger emotional and practical support for mothers later in life.'

He also said that fathers may lose their 'kin keeper' role after divorce, leading to increased social isolation.

A 'kin keeper' is someone who assist family communication, plan gatherings and help the family keep in touch.

The study, published in The Journals of Gerontology: Series B, reads: 'Health, wellbeing and social integration of older parents is strongly linked to the presence of a partner in the household and to intergenerational solidarity from adult children.

'The rise in grey divorce could undermine both of these critical resources, as older people who separate not only lose their partner but may also damage relationships to their adult children.

'Our central finding is the contrasting impact for mothers and fathers. A grey divorce tilts adult child solidarity towards mothers and puts fathers at a higher risk of social isolation.'

Revisiting My Past

Took at drive to Cleveland Circle today, specifically to grab lunch at Pino's Pizza in Brighton.

Pino's, Cleveland Circle, Chestnut Hill Mall, Newton, Route9, these are all special places with each holding a very special meaning in my life of a time gone by.  A time when I was head over heals in love - my first love.  The person who stole my heart.  Who broke my heart and who has held a piece of it all these years later.

It was nice to revisit some of these places again today. Although, so much has changed, it still brought back fond memories, yet as if they happened just yesterday

Very emotional 😥

Pino's Pizza, one of the best pizza I've ever had -

Ordered myself a small cheese and it was delicious just as I remember it!

I grabbed myself a picnic table in the shade, near the ballfield and took my time, savoring each bite, as I reminisced of a time gone by and a time I truly miss.  I'd be lying if I told there weren't any tears.

They were selling t-shirts and couldn't resist, so I grabbed a couple -

Grief